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I think you've hit the nail on the head. Normally I'd strive to use the appropriate energy for a situation—but what's appropriate for me isn't what's necessarily appropriate for you, as we have different assets, experiences, etc. And what's appropriate for me in one situation isn't necessarily what's appropriate for me in another!

Chuang Tzu said this one best, I think:

Chuang Tzu and Hui Tzu were walking together, when Hui Tzu pointed to a tree by the side of the road and said, “Here, look at this tree: it’s so twisted that you couldn’t cut a straight board from it, and so knotted that it would be impossible to work with. No carpenter would even give it a second look. Your teachings are like that tree: big and useless. That’s why everybody ignores them.”

Chuang Tzu replied, “What sort of things would you consider useful? How about a wildcat: brutally efficient at stalking its prey, leaping this way and that; but for all the ground it covers, it’s that much more likely to get caught in a trap and die. Perhaps a mighty yak, then: big and strong as a thundercloud, no trap could ever capture it; but if your house was infested with mice, you’d be wishing for the wildcat!

“As for that tree, it might not be useful to a carpenter, but I’d love to relax beside it and take a nap in it’s shade. Besides, no axe will ever shorten it’s life. If it’s ‘useless,’ then what can cause it harm?”

Be an ugly tree when you need to be an ugly tree. Be a wildcat when you need to be a wildcat. Be a yak when you need to be a yak. Good advice, but a difficult lesson to apply in the moment...